Me, Myself & I
10.05.2016
Actress Kristin Chenoweth once said, ‘If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.’ There are countless quotes similar to this one taken out of everything from rom-coms to relationship studies that state until you are at peace and in love with yourself (in the least egotistical way possible) then you won’t have a successful romantic relationship with another.
We are continually learning about ourselves as we go through our lives, but around your late teens, early twenties you begin to get a better sense of what your core will be for the rest of your life. Away from all those teenage hormones and awkward stages during the dreaded puberty you are able to get your mind together a little. But then during this time of self-discovery you need to learn to be able to appreciate yourself at the same time.
This could include, but is also not just alluding to, looks as this is about having clarity with your sense of and opinions on the world as well. It’s true that when you then get into a relationship you may feel a little more emotionally vulnerable, raw, and like someone has control over your feelings. This then on top of any personal angst or issues you are going through at the time will result in a difficult relationship. The sad thing is sometimes relationships are dictated a lot by timing.
When you love yourself fully you let go of any possibilities of getting harmful feelings such as jealousy, fear or sense of lesser worth. This will then mean that if situations arise where these feelings may have been felt before, the time when you were feeling lower in yourself, that unnecessary arguments are stopped from happening. When arguments between partners happen it makes both parties feel inadequate and low in themselves which depreciates self-love.
The energy inside of you vibrates out of your body into the atmosphere and while positive energies attract good, negative ones attract the bad times. Therefore feeling positive about your whole being and your life helps the way shape the way in which you see the word, in a good light. ‘To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don't wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now -’ actor Alan Cohen.